Identity Triggers

Our identity is the story we tell ourselves about who we are. When we receive critical feedback, our persona is under attack. The way we are triggered and respond has to do with our mindset. Two possibilities: fixed mindset and growth mindset.

A person with a fixed mindset believes that they are as good as it gets. They know all there is to know, they need to protect what they have and who they are. You can imagine how devastating critical feedback must be, because this person only hears “not good enough”,  without any chance for the future.                                                                                                                                                

Very different for a person with a growth mindset. Receiving feedback is easy because this person believes that they can change with dedication and hard work. Constructive feedback is welcomed and may be the beginning of a productive relationship.

We all react to feedback according to our life experiences. The triggers are obstacles when they keep us from hearing, appreciating and learning from the feedback offered.

Giving and receiving feedback is a learned skill. Therefore, only practice makes perfect. Remember the beach ball, get curious about what the other side looks like and how they see you. It is normal to have emotional reactions to criticism, just don’t let your triggers keep you from learning and reaching your full potential.