Living wholeheartedly has been my quest for quite some time. My recent search led me to Brene Brown, author of Daring Greatly and Rising Strong. She explains how to show up authentically, be real, deal with the critics and haters. My favorite quote for the week:
"Don't try to win over the haters; you're not the jackass whisperer." Scott Stratten author of "UnMarketing"
And this is what being wholehearted is all about. From the children's book classic The Velveteen Rabbit:
"Real isn't how your are made," said the Skin Horse. "It's a thing that happens to you. When a child loves you for a long, long time, not just to play with, but really loves you, then you become Real."
"Does it hurt?" asked the Rabbit.
"Sometimes," said the Skin Horse, for he was always truthful. "When you are Real, you don't mind being hurt."
"Does it happen all at once, like being wound up," he asked, "or bit by bit?"
"It doesn't happen all at once," said the Skin Horse. "You become. It takes a long time. That's why it doesn't often happen to people who break easily, or have sharp edges, or who have to be carefully kept. Generally, by the time you are Real, most of your hair has been loved off, and your eyes drop out, and you get loose in the joints and very shabby. But these things don't matter at all, because once you are Real, you can't be ugly, except to people who don't understand."
So, let's be real and live wholeheartedly.